Ok, all the guys I know can stop telling me that it is my fault they are thinking about sex. It isn’t just my fault. Dude.
And no one else needs to call me or run into me and greet me with some version of, “You bitch,” or “Damn you,” or “Fuck you.”
Ok? Yeah. I’m really done with the greeting.
If you want to tell me you are thinking about me while you masturbate, yeah… that’s fine. Don’t greet me with a swear word though. I’m not reacting well to it.
I mean really – they’re guys – they’re ALWAYS thinking about sex. 🙂
Let’s not be sexist. I’m certainly always thinking about sex.
Touche. But whose fault is that?
mine mine mine mine mine
Personal accountability baby.
Bingo.
gosh, when someone makes ME think about sex constantly I say “thank you sweetie!” These boys have NO appreciation!!
I do like your mind. As well as what I can see in that picture.
Wowsa.
Wowsa.
Uh-huh. 8-9
oh, man, I only rate an 8 to a 9? What do I need to do to be a perfect 10? 😉
Post a bigger picture!
Way to go! LOL!!! I second the thought!
I made a comment in response to this thread a few days ago that was imprudent, so I removed it. Now I know that it was also deemed inappropriate and offensive. I apologize for the offense: none was intended, but it was neither well-worded nor wisely done. I sometimes forget that good-natured humor of a nonetheless personal nature is not acceptable in this case, and I’m sorry I overstepped.
You already are, love.
Maybe I should get a monacle, so the licking-lips smiley would be like this: 6-9
yah, those ingrates! It’s not like you weren’t filling their minds with yummmmmmy pictures!
I wouldn’t talk that way to you unless you made it clear that you wanted that sort of thing. I can think of all sorts of other things I’d rather say or do to you though. 😉
As for thinking about sex all of the time… not your fault at all. I’m a prevert all on my own.
Hear hear!
I’m a prevert all on my own.
It seems to me that on LJ, you’d have to be a postvert, no?
Oh, I am wounded.
Oh, I bleed….
Geez. What kind of idjit would do that? *tsk*
It’s like when doms walk around at a play party assuming every submissive is interested in stroking their ego. Grrr. Thankfully they quickly get a reputation for being obnoxious, annoying, and disrespectful…
Personally, I just wanna know how *you* are responsible for what *someone else* thinks. (And why exactly thinking about sex all the time is a bad thing. I think about sex all the time and I like it!)
As far as the greetings, that is just disrespectful and rude. I personally prefer my greetings to include “Hi! Great to see yoU!” and (even better) hugs.
my thoughts exactly, whose been greeting you that way and can I thwap him for you?
oh yes. I will happily help thwap such idjits, and not in fun pleasurable ways either.
*mimes a hard slap on the back of Idjit’s head*
Very kool tattoo. But I can’t quite figure out the image???
that’s because it’s my own creation, and then we photoshopped it for clarity as an icon.
Essentially it’s a celtic cross, with breaks at the top of the arms… I intend (finally!) this year to “grow” a rosebush thru the breaks, deep red flower at top, elaborate root system below, and branches twining off to the sides.
I’ve heard “damn” being used in fairly positive ways (for instance, “damn, girl, you are hot!”). Still, that sounds totally inappropriate.
I’ve struggled a lot with wanting to be attractive and yet not wanting to be seen as primarily a sex object even if I’m flirtatious. It’s a hard problem. I got upset at someone recently for implying that there were different ways to interact (socially, not sexually) with women who are sexually assertive and women who aren’t seen as sex objects. This seems like it’s along those lines – something that would be inappropriate in a friendly setting but the person thinks is just fine when it’s someone they think of sexually.
Enh. Sex is hard. Kill them all.
Sex is supposed to be hard.
Um, except when it’s supposed to be soft, or squishy, or, um, something.
It’s the general interaction that’s difficult.
Nah, sex is easy… or is that I’m easy… I can never keep those, umm, straight.
Seriously though, sex isn’t that hard. Relationships… that’s the hard part IMO.
If I tell you that you’re inspiring me to think about sex, it’s a compliment. Saying “it’s your fault” would be like saying “It’s your fault I’m rich.”
Usually, if you influence my thoughts about sex, it’s to get me to think about sex with you, as opposed to sex in general or sex with someone else specific.
pusifoot must have been stealing my brain waves – not much left for me to say but “me too”.
It’s not your fault. Sure, you can influence others but they control their minds and bodies. It’s their problem. And since when is thinking about sex a bad thing? It always makes me smiley to think about past adventures or ponder new ones.
I’ve heard “You bitch” used as a sign of affection but I doubt this is the case here. Next time someone says that, kick ’em in the groin for me. It may justify their belief but I’d bet it’d learn them to keep their mouth shut.
Naw, don’t actually do that. 😛 But they still suck for being so crass.
I don’t ever appreciate “You bitch.” It is simply not something I appreciate. I’m not a bitch. Period.
No but my friend Andy is and so I call him that as a term of affection. I’d agree that it doesn’t apply to you tho.
When I hear “dammit, it’s your fault I’m thinking about sex” I think of it in one of two ways.
1. That’s nice, hahahahahahahaha, sucks to be you 😀
2. You’re trying to pressure me into having sex, like it’s my duty or something to satisfy what I’ve done to you.
When it’s done with the second thing in mind, well, let’s just say I am most displeased and uncomfortable.
I mean, yeah, it’s flattering to know that someone is turned on by my presence, but trying to manipulate me into doing something about it? That’s being a fucking dick and not in the way most people like.
Hell, last I checked, I didn’t owe random people any sort of nookie whatsoever, and neither does anyone else, come to that.
Yes, #2. I think that is somehow what I’m getting out of it and it really is making me angry.
Frustrated. grrr
So, next time it happens, ask them if they’d prefer to be taken off your “dirty filter” — if it’s causing them such difficulties. That would solve their “problem” quite neatly, I think.
I like this solution!
“intellectual blueballs”
Snort! (Agreed)
I will admit that sometimes I’m probably reading #2 into what is probably meant as something more innocent, requiring of the #1 response. I’m not sure who that says more about; that I’m too sensitive and take things to personally, or that there are enough selfish guys out there to reinforce the belief that most guys mean “you should do me” when they say “you are hot and making me horny”.
Eh, it is a confusing thing, as many have said. Bottom line, if you’re uncomfortable, then it’s not a good thing.
Eh, it does say something about the culture. There are an awful lot of asshole guys. In terms of raw physical attraction, about 35-40% of the people I go for are male; in terms of who I’ve actually dated or played with, the figure is more like 10%. While this is partly because I have extraordinarily reliable antigaydar (i.e. me having a crush on a guy is a fairly reliable indicator that he’s straight), it’s also partly because I’ve been really turned off by the way gay men have hit on me, making it fairly obvious that they just want casual sex.
Off-Topic: I’ve had better experiences with bi guys — in fact, I’ve never gotten into bed with an “all gay” guy. While I’m sure there are some nice gay men out there, I get the impression that because in their horny teens and early twenties they can generally find another guy who just wants sex, they get used to just ignoring any guy who doesn’t respond to that kind of directness, and never develop the social skills that one generally needs in order to persuade a woman that one is worth sleeping with. 😛
Anyways, yeah. While not all men are scum — at least, I think I’m not, and neither are the other males commenting here, so far as I know — enough of them are that I am always slightly suspicious of guys hitting on me, even if they seem kinda cute/nice. *sigh*
Man, I might pass this on to a bi friend of mine, who sometimes feels out of place in both the straight world and the gay world. It’s nice to hear positive stuff about bi guys (even if it is only half a sentence).
Hm, I find it to be kind of the other way around–that is, guys who grew up in gay culture also learned the flip side of ‘cruising.’ That is, if you show interest in a guy and he doesn’t immediately reciprocate, you’re supposed to shrug and move on. Whereas in straight-guy culture, “no” means “bug the shit out of her until she gives in.”
I wonder if those same guys get mad at every woman on TV or the movies who excites them or everyone in a porn mag.
When you write deliciously erotic things in your LJ, for those of us lucky enough to read it, those words are a gift. Freely given, with no expectations of more, no responsiblity to give again, and certainly no expectation or responsiblity to go further. They are a gift, that we who read them can enjoy, but they go no further. People may share with you their enjoyment of those words, but anyone who thinks they are ‘owed’ anything more- or that for having worked them up, you somehow need to help finish them off, has totally missed the point.
“I wonder if those same guys get mad at every woman on TV or the movies who excites them or everyone in a porn mag.”
I doubt it.
But the mentality is dealing with is the same that prevents many women from reporting rape – especially date rape – due to the questions about whether you were dressed in sexy or “provocative” attire, or whether you behaved in a sex or “provocative” manner. You know, that old “she was asking for it” mindset.
Seems if you dress, behave, or speak (and now we can add post) in a manner that is attention-getting in a sexual way, you’re asking for the sexual attention you receive.
On the other hand, the guys who are behaving this way are doing you a big favor in one sense,. They’ve thrown up a big red flag about how poorly they handle personal accountability, which allows you to file them under “Don’t Go There” and save yourself the bother.
It is both disturbing and just plain sad how, even in liberal supposedly sexually aware communities there is still so little sense of personal accountability.
Some of the best writtings on BDSM talk about how important, how necessary it is, to begin by claiming absolute, complete control and authority over your own actions. You can’t give to another in a negotiated setting what you do not already have.
We’ve come along way, but the ideas that somehow a woman who flaunts her sexual desires has to somehow then be responsible for the actions of the men who are turned on by her actions- sadly that idea still hasn’t been stamped out.
“I’m sorry, I was wearing that sexy outfit because my boyfriend likes it. You being turned on by it was just collateral damage.”
I love the original of that pic. The facial expression being given over your shoulder greatly enhances the pose.
Mmmmmmm…. guuhhhhrrrrrrrrlllll….
mrr?? I don’t recall showing you the original…
It’s linked from somewhere back in your archives. 🙂
“Gosh, I’m sorry. I’ll be sure never to do or say anything sex-related towards you ever again.”
Assholes.
I haven’t had a chance to greet you recently, but if I did I wouldn’t say ‘fuck you’ even if I wanted to. Fuck you, that is. Not say it. But do it. I should go to bed now.
Soo…. I’ve been thinking about you while I masturbate….
mmmmmmmmm Tell me more… 🙂
*lick*
I will sweet girl… I’ll whisper it into your ear so it tickles just a little. And so I can bite you too.