If you can see this, I am not upset about you touching me.
I did get really annoyed at having to tell Joe Blow to stop touching me every 45 seconds for about 15 minutes though. (The advice on the DHP list that I just should have said, “No” is kind of funny. I do say no. I just get sick of saying it every 45 seconds.)
I got a little snippy and eventually started asking even people who can see this to stop touching me because I hit massive overload. But as far as any sort of general rule goes:
If you can see this, you have my permission to do pretty much any form of casual touching. 🙂 I love you! (Yeah, this is a tight filter.)
Glad I’m on this list. Sorry you went through it.
Interesting lingustic thing happened at the party.
At one point someone was trying to get your attention as you walked by, a woman whose name I don’t know but who wanted to ask you something. I tapped you and told you that said person wanted to grab you for a minute… and only realized later what an unfortuante choice of words that had been. doh :).
Just an intereting linguistic thing I noted.
Happy to be on the list, sad that you have to deal with people walking past your boundaries.
What said.
*snuggle*
Hey,
I meant to catch up with you at the party. I am sorry you got pushed.
I don’t know if it will help or not, but when I am feeling like my space is being violated, I find someone and entwine with them and tell them, “I need protection from a bad nasty person who isn’t getting the hint. That is them over there.”
Then, not only am I safe for a while and can regain equilibrium, but I have also told someone else, who usually will warn them off.
I am happy to be that sort of person for you, if that would help.
Regardless, hugs and thank you for including me on this list.
There are situations sadly, where “no” is not heard. As in signal sent but not recieved. That’s usually when I change tactics. As I mentioned in the other thread, I have been known to offer to break people’s fingers for them if they can’t keep them to themselves. I’ve never had anyone cross that line for me. But, I do warn them, and not without the intent to back it up.
I wish I’d seen the situation at hand. There’s only so many times I’ll put up with someone else behaving that way around me. I’m sorry you had to put up with it.
In the same vein as what Mertuil said, I make a good body guard, if you have the need.
I know you got overloaded, and I just hope that the offenders have figured it out. Unfortunately it seems like the people that are conscientious enough to think they could have offended are also conscientious enough NOT to offend.
*Hugs*
Thanks, I really appreciate what you’re saying
(And, as always, feel vaguely guilty for being a guy who might potentially be dense enough to not get the message.)
really?!
Now you made me all warm and melty. Thank you!!!!
Ok, now I won’t feel so daunted by your seemingly packed social calendar. Wanna have lunch or dinner or something with me and Miss M?
*squeeze*
Re: really?!
My packed social schedule doesn’t seem to be occuring this month. heh. Ok, I have all of my weekends booked, but mostly for dance events and that means usually not actually all weekend. 🙂 I don’t have a date scheduled at the moment. Not one. Not with anyone. I suspect I will usually head over to one person’s house on Tuesdays, but they aren’t actually booked.
I have a wide open calendar. Go figure. 🙂
I’ve only been saying, “Yes!!!” to you two for over a year. Sheesh.