I am caught up on all of the bills I have been…not…looking at…
*sigh*
I have one event in the next month or so that I need to pay an entrance fee for. There is no way around it. I am not going to be eating out at all. I am not going to clubs for a while. Nada. If you love me and want to see me, don’t ask me to go out for lunch/dinner with you. I can’t do it this month. How about if we split groceries and one of cooks instead?
What event are you going to? I’d be glad to have you over for dinner…just let me know if you are coming… 😉
*koff koff*
Darlin’, would you like to come over and visit? Lunch, whatever. We’d love to have you as our guest.
Lunches would be good. I will be back up in your neck of the woods again by Tuesday of next week. What day would be good for you?
Tues-Weds-Thurs are all good for us so far. A job interview could come up, o’ course, but let’s take this to email and make a plan.
Don’t your friends usually buy your lunches? I’d much rather do that than miss someone’s company.
Jay, you can’t be the only one who puts up a fuss at the notion of someone else paying for dinner.
It’s like asking… a no-win situation.
hmmm, and my world is about creating as many win-win situations as possible.
We *did* set ourselves up for a few challenges, no?
Damn good thing you’re so bloody minded, and I’m so tenacious. (grin)
*twitch*
I don’t generally let people buy me anything. It bothers me. I have a few friends who like to do so and it bothers me.
I so understand this. However.
When I was your age (sorry! it’s true!) I was pretty broke and people were often generous with me and it was often hard for me. Now that I’m my age, and I *finally* have the money to be generous with other folks, I really enjoy doing so. I grew up poor; getting to buy something for another person is such a treat for me.
I hope that you will try to internalize this, my dear. And meantime, we’ll figger out a lunch time.
I tend to assume that anyone I’m having a meal with is broke/unemployed/struggling and hence reach for the check. Besides, better that I buy them something than vice-versa, otherwise then I’d feel like I owed them, instead of being able to walk away freely.
So if *you* feel like you would owe something, why shouldn’t I?
(grin) holding me to consistency…
I know that I expect nothing from my friends and very little from my partners, support or otherwise, so internally it seems silly that I’d expect anything from someone I’d only just bought lunch for. However, *you* can’t know that, so I couldn’t blame you for feeling uncomfortable.
Dude.. it’s not about you expecting something for it, it’s about me supporting myself. It’s about the fact that I, usually, am not struggling with money. Frankly, I imagine that your budget is tighter then mine, right now. And, also, I have this deep set independance thing that causes me to have trouble accepting gifts from my parents, much less from my friends. Once, I’m probably ok with. On a special occasion, I’ll give in. But only if it feels fairly evenly split, and the other party is willing to let me treat sometimes too. 🙂
1. Dude, you are so invited to feed with us any old time. For freeeeeeeee even.
2. Could you give me a ping to just let me know that you got my messages and there’s processing going on elsewhere?
Hmmmmmm Dinner with BS and GB? That could rock all. *flips through calendar*
No Wednesdays or Thursdays. Not the 23/24/29 of March… pick a day. 🙂
I suspect you meant April there? We’ll come up with something…
Uhm yeah. April. What she said. *blush*
I’m trying to say that I have three nights I am busy on the weekend and two week nights/week I am busy. Other than that I have no plans at all for the rest of the month.
Wow has life changed in a hurry.
They won’t do work exchange?
The event I have to pay for does not do work exchange. It is the camping fee at a beach.
Well darn.