At least this one isn’t going to my absolute entire friends-list. Just you special people.
I suppose my opinions are twisted by having “grown up” in the bdsm/alternative sexuality community. I have this little thing called respect for other people. I believe that when I am dealing with adults I need to allow them to make their own decisions and direct their own life–because that is what being a grown up is about. I believe that if I want to allow people the autonomy to live on their own, decide who they date, etc that I need to allow them the autonomy to decide when and how they are going to play. This does not mean that I have to be happy about the decisions that they are making, but I need to stay out of it because it isn’t my call. Early in my scene career I would leave the play space when watching scene’s where I was not ok with what was happening. I would never have interrupted a scene though. It was not my call. Even as a DM I have never interrupted a scene because it was too edgy and squicked me. I believe that would be far more inappropriate than anything people are doing. I have no right to inflict my morals or ethics on anyone else.
The rumors are flying fast and furious. Given my state of mind it isn’t a good idea for me to really clear them up because I will announce some things publicly that some people would prefer remain private. I will say: whatever you were thinking was going to happen was probably wrong. You were making judgments about things that you don’t understand. If you claim to have any respect for the people who were involved then you would have respected their right as adults to make their own decisions. But no. No one had any fucking respect. Instead, the morality police showed up and decided that the participants were evil and wrong and had no right to make such decisions about their lives. You know what? Fuck every single one of you. You didn’t help. Yeah, you got the event cancelled. Fucking congratulations. Now, there have been months of stress around a very emotional event and instead of having a healing event take place that would have been a god damn big deal, there is so much anger and frustration that it is absolutely overwhelming. I am so glad that you all got your way about enforcing your morals. Just because something is outside your realm of experience, just because something would be bad for you does not make it bad or immoral and it is pathetic and pissy and immature of you to imply that your standards have to apply to the world.
I really should stop now.
Oh I should be fair. Not everyone was a pathetic twat. There are a few reasonable people out there. Just not enough.
I will say: whatever you were thinking was going to happen was probably wrong. You were making judgments about things that you don’t understand. If you claim to have any respect for the people who were involved then you would have respected their right as adults to make their own decisions. But no. No one had any fucking respect. Instead, the morality police showed up and decided that the participants were evil and wrong and had no right to make such decisions about their lives. You know what? Fuck every single one of you. You didn’t help.
I have to assume this *isn’t* directed at me, because everything I have said or done has been with complete respect for you, and with no moral judgment. You can be furious with me all you want. I love you, and every question I’ve asked has been out of concern for your healing.
Now you’ve got me all a-twitter over the specifics of what happened. Or, at least, the slightly less general overview.
But, yeah, “different != wrong” and “not everyone shares your kink” are things that anyone, especially those in an “alternative” community, should keep in mind.
In the “thinking the best of people”, I will presume that those folks who stopped whatever was going on thought what was happening was “unsafe”, because that’s about the only reason a DM should do anything. The obvious disagreement here is that the participants thought it was safe.
Obviously this is a wake-up call to folks to communicate more about more esoteric things you may be doing with the folks in charge, so that when a DM comes on a scene involving (as a most extreme example) amputation, no snap decisions are made.
But there I go, inflicting reason on a perfectly good rant. Sorry. It’s just my way…
This had nothing to do with any DM’s or any public play space. So your reason is completely irrelevant and unasked for.
Sorry to hear that so much stuff is going on that it has generated ranting, and that whomever(s) would rather catastrophize than trust that people know what they are doing.
grrr. (I admit to having the desire to stand guard over you like a momma cat, and growl at people while you curl up in safety between my front paws, though I know you don’t need my protection)
I’m sorry this happened. Akien filled me in a little bit of the background. I’m happy to discuss it more with you if that would help, and brainstorm a way to get your needs met.
(hugs)
I’m so sorry for you. I think I’ve seen enough pieces that I think I know what happened, and it just sucks.
::hug:: sorry you have drama….
I really hope the objections voiced were from within the comunity and not from the outside. When I hear rants along the lines of yours, I start fearing that I will be called upon to defend the fucktards who call themselves Christian just because I also call myself Christian. I hope your comunity can come back together, decide that yes, you are all adults, and that when you disagree you are still a comunity.
This really had nothing to do with anyone using any platform of Christianity. You have nothing whatsoever to defend. Actually, the fairly staunch Christians I talked to about the situation were pretty damn supportive.
That’s good… phrases like “imposing your morality” seems to be the standard responce of non-christians to the pushy christians, so I thought I’d ask.
Again, sorry you’re having drama
Urr…
Wow. I am perplexed as to why I am on this filter. Am assuming that it is because you think I may get stuff through the grapevine.
Re: Urr…
Naw. Cause I’m ranting and you are on the rant filter.
Anyone who wants off the rant filter can get off the rant filter.
And I still have no idea WHAT the “dangerous” event was going to be…. so I’m sitting here reading this going, “BUT, BUT, BUT!!! What’s the EVENT?”
You can just tell I hate being left out of the loop.
Sigh….
Yes, yes… its all about me, and the world stops revolving when I go to sleep at night.
and the world stops revolving when I go to sleep at night.
Is that why I keep having so much trouble getting up in the morning?
grrrr, grr, grrrrr!
I am not ok with interrupting another’s scene for anything short of direct rules violation or chance of death. And those are safety concerns, not morality ones. Intolerant people are dumb.
wow. Whatever happened, I hope you’ll tell me more next week.
Hugs to you, and silliness too.
Um…wtf happened? I’m somewhat guessing that it’s from a social circle that’s pretty much unconnected to me, as I haven’t a *clue* what you’re referencing.
but, well, feel better, and I hope ranting helped a bit.
A-MEN! I totally agree, and not just in the kink arena, but in every area of life. People, by and large, and immature dolts, and I stand by that.
O Poop! I’m so sorry. I don’t know what happened but I don’t need to to get it.
~Big Fucking Squishes!!!~
I hate stupid people. Sorry they’ve been messing up your good time.
X
For one, your opinion on what ‘adult’ is doesn’t sound twisted to me.
Two: I don’t know what-the-fuck happened, but if I were in a situation where someone else’s ‘moral judgment’ stepped all over my life, my moment, my healing I’d be on them like white on rice… and I do consider myself an adult.
Hang in & stay strong
I think I know what this is about and I’m sorry that people can be such fucktards. I can only imagine the frustration you must be going through right now not only because you feel betrayed but because you held out so much hope for healing only to feel invalidated once again.
Fucktards, I tell ya.