Sometimes something happens. It doesn’t have to be an important something, just random bickering. But it tells you a lot about who a person is and it tells you a lot about who a community is. Today I think I figured out that I don’t belong in a community. The social values of that community are not ones that I respect or can live by and that means I should walk away instead of dealing with continual upset and difficulty.
It’s sad really. I don’t think it will be that hard though. There are some good people in that community. There are probably three or four people that I will continue to include in my life, but I will simply not be part of that overall dynamic.
I’m worth more than that.
That can be hard. The closest I’ve come to what your describing is a community that everyone seemed to kinda grow out of. People ended up just going their separate ways.
It was tough because I had put a lot of my identity into that community, and then it just gradually became “not worth *that* much energy”
Good luck.
Mmm, yes, been there. Sometimes you belong, sometimes you don’t. But just because you do or don’t, doesn’t mean that you do or don’t hang out. There’s several communities that I very much belong to, but only actually make it to once or twice a year, while many other communities that I really don’t function all that well in, for good or ill, get a lot of me.
*hug*
you are worth a huge amount
Score another one for your defense of boundaries. Sounds like a good decision on your part.
The social values of that community are not ones that I respect or can live by and that means I should walk away instead of dealing with continual upset and difficulty.
That sounds like an amazingly strong and wise insight. I’m very impressed.