You want to be the princess. You want your partner to know it.
You want to do things for people, friends and partners both. You want to be appreciated for it.
You want to be able to feel very, very safe when you’re at home and need to hermit. You want home to be a safe base so you can go out and do things that don’t feel safe, and then you can be home when you need to.
You want a bit of control. That’s part of what makes you feel safe and comfortable with a place, or with a person. Doing things for people and having them appreciated is one kind of control. Redecorating a space is another.
There are more. I could probably go on for a long time. Instead, I’ll hit “Post Comment” 🙂
You’ve started doing things for me, and I appreciate it. More will help, but I think more will take time — I’m not yet comfortable pushing you to do more for me, and I don’t think you’d be comfortable with me pushing harder. As for your other fellow and your friends, I don’t know. I know you do things for people, but I don’t know if it’s enough for you to feel good/comfortable.
I don’t know how safe you feel at home. It seems to get better with time. I expect you’ll keep feeling safer, especially when we get more redecorating done. But until you genuinely feel that you won’t ever be forced to move elsewhere, I don’t think home will feel perfectly safe to you.
You have more control over (and with) me than you’re ready to use, and probably more than you’re willing to see. I can hand you that, but I can’t make you comfortable with it.
We’re starting on house stuff, changing furniture and before long, painting and carpeting. I think that will help a lot with you feeling you’ve got control over the house. I think it will be hard to do most of the redecorating before it cools off a bit 🙂
So overall, I’d say you have some of each of these things. You have lots of some, and less of others.
Do you have the answers you want, or can anyone play?
My answer is more succinct than Angelbob’s (and a tad brutal) but not significantly different: you want the world to revolve around you, except when you don’t — then you want it to go away for a bit.
That might sound bad, but I kinda want that too. Cept for the going away part. I think I just want it to revolve around me all the time.
(Come to think of it, his answer’s a hell of a lot more useful too.)
You want to be the princess. You want your partner to know it.
You want to do things for people, friends and partners both. You want to be appreciated for it.
You want to be able to feel very, very safe when you’re at home and need to hermit. You want home to be a safe base so you can go out and do things that don’t feel safe, and then you can be home when you need to.
You want a bit of control. That’s part of what makes you feel safe and comfortable with a place, or with a person. Doing things for people and having them appreciated is one kind of control. Redecorating a space is another.
There are more. I could probably go on for a long time. Instead, I’ll hit “Post Comment” 🙂
Love you.
Alright, do I have these things?
I know you’re the princess. You know I do.
You’ve started doing things for me, and I appreciate it. More will help, but I think more will take time — I’m not yet comfortable pushing you to do more for me, and I don’t think you’d be comfortable with me pushing harder. As for your other fellow and your friends, I don’t know. I know you do things for people, but I don’t know if it’s enough for you to feel good/comfortable.
I don’t know how safe you feel at home. It seems to get better with time. I expect you’ll keep feeling safer, especially when we get more redecorating done. But until you genuinely feel that you won’t ever be forced to move elsewhere, I don’t think home will feel perfectly safe to you.
You have more control over (and with) me than you’re ready to use, and probably more than you’re willing to see. I can hand you that, but I can’t make you comfortable with it.
We’re starting on house stuff, changing furniture and before long, painting and carpeting. I think that will help a lot with you feeling you’ve got control over the house. I think it will be hard to do most of the redecorating before it cools off a bit 🙂
So overall, I’d say you have some of each of these things. You have lots of some, and less of others.
You two are so amazingly sweet.
We have our moments. Sometimes he is a pain in the ass though.
Do you have the answers you want, or can anyone play?
My answer is more succinct than Angelbob’s (and a tad brutal) but not significantly different: you want the world to revolve around you, except when you don’t — then you want it to go away for a bit.
That might sound bad, but I kinda want that too. Cept for the going away part. I think I just want it to revolve around me all the time.
(Come to think of it, his answer’s a hell of a lot more useful too.)
*grin* You know, it’s a good thing I adore you. Or I might think you were a brat. Hey wait–I think that anyway. I adore you anyway.
And yeah, it’s more than kinda true…