Got back the pictures of Noah and I at the dance. Whereas I can say that they are cute pictures my first response was, “Oh my god I’m chunky.” I’m also thinking about burning that dress so that I will never be seen in public in something so unflattering again.
*sigh* But you know what? I know that the women I look chunkier than (there is a group picture with all of the chaperones) are stick skinny and I wouldn’t *want* to look like that. Why is it that I think I look awful because I’m uhm well filled out but I think it looks fine or better on other people? Stupid double standards.
I have decided that I am not going to say out loud again that I look fat in the pictures. I look happy. I am all snuggly with my baby and he looks like he is having fun too. I am absolutely NOT going to say that I look fat in front of my students. I look like I’m grinning my head off. That is what matters. I am however allowed to make cracks about being so pale you can’t tell where the white dress ends and I begin. 😉
If you feel good about yourself naked…then it’s the dress. Burn it.
I think it comes down to what we wear most of the time. I see fuller women that look AMAZING…doesn’t matter their size…it’s what they’ve got on and how much confidence they exude.
There are plenty of styles and shades of color out there that I adore…but that does not mean they look good on me. Or you for that matter.
Over the years, my concept of the “ideal woman” has fluctuated back and forth between thin and stringy to downright curvy. The one thing that has never changed has been that the entire spectrum has always shifted about 10-20 pounds heavier when the clothes come off. Honestly, I think a lot of it has to do with current fashion trends calling for tight clothes which are not clinging. In other words, rather than clinging to you and moving with you, they are simply strapped down tight (like jeans) which works great if you’re a walking ruler, but accentuates any amount of fat, making even slim people look a lot heavier than they really are.
DId that make any sense at all?
Pictures have a tendency to mess with me too. Remember 2D is not an accurate representation of 3D.
Hugs
Noah went to a dance and had fun?
BOGGLE!!!
Other than me being a dumbass a few times I think we basically had fun. Of course, we hid from the music and the kids as much as possible.
I remember going thru a period where I realized that I didn’t like to hug skinny women where I could reach right around them and hold each elbow with the opposite hand. Okay, that’s an exaggeration, but still. I realized that I didn’t like the experience of hugging women who were (*ahem*) the same body size as me. They always felt too bony and stuff. That was hard to wrap my head around and I mostly didn’t try. I mostly just put that one away and didn’t look at it much.
(Later I realized that it was at least partly because it wasn’t what I was used to: I was *used* to hugging Bean.)
1. I think your decision to avoid negative self talk about your photo is excellent, and a wise idea in general.
2. It is important to take Brehen’s point about what to wear into account….there is always the chance that despite out great fondness for an item in THEORY that it is unflattering in PRACTICE. I think you do feel good about your shape, but that you don’t always choose clothes that accentuate it.
You will always be the skinny chick, next to me 🙂 I think you should post this picture so we, your adoring fans, can weigh in.
pictures pictures!
at least of the chunky parts.
( “weigh in.” made me laugh. )