He came home from work early for reasons not having to do with me. I proceed to start babbling/crying at high speed all the stuff that has been in my head since last night. I explained the sheer overwhelming magnitude of how many ways and to what degree I am giving up *my* indpendence. I asked him if he has ever stopped to consider what I am giving up. He hadn’t. I asked him if I have complained or whined or railed at the gods about how unfair it is. He said I haven’t at all. He then sat and thought about this and said, “Well it is starting to sound like there are a few things I need to suck it up about.”

We then discussed in more detail that if he wants to take the charity of Tao money and blow it on other things then he just doesn’t have the money to give to friends or political organizations or whatever. But he can do it. This seems to be enough for him.

When he has been a butthead in the past few hours I have a hard time remembering that he is ever not a butthead. But then he goes and acts like the complete opposite of a butthead and I remember why I married him. Thank you all for listening to me vent and not overreacting along with me.