I get the impression that promises and integrity just mean different things to me than to other people. If I am going to be five minutes late to meeting someone I call fifteen minutes in advance to warn them and apologize profusely. When people break promises to me I notice. I notice and I catalogue them. I withdraw trust. Rapidly. Completely. If I have to be paranoid because someone is telling me something and doing another… yeah. That puts a serious damper on any trust related activities.
Damn my internal filter. I can't write about this. It hurts too much.
I feel the same way!
*offers hugs*
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It may not be the promise, but the definition of the thing being promised. For many people, saying “I’ll meet you at 3pm” and arriving at 3:05pm means they *have* done what they said they would do. They may feel very strongly about keeping their promise, but not feel anything at all about the distinction between 3pm and 3:05pm.
If someone has been involved with me for any length of time and they continue to believe as you have indicated then they have not listened to me even slightly. I communicate about how important this is to me all the time.
And three hours is not five fucking minutes.
If someone has been involved with me for any length of time and they continue to believe as you have indicated then they have not listened to me even slightly. I communicate about how important this is to me all the time.
And three hours is not five fucking minutes.
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It may not be the promise, but the definition of the thing being promised. For many people, saying “I’ll meet you at 3pm” and arriving at 3:05pm means they *have* done what they said they would do. They may feel very strongly about keeping their promise, but not feel anything at all about the distinction between 3pm and 3:05pm.