I was talking to someone about judging how other people parent. That’s a tricky thing. Here’s my basic position:

I don’t care what choices you make. I don’t care if you breastfeed or formula feed. I don’t care if you cosleep or if everyone is in their own room. I don’t care if you home school or public school or private school.

Are your children showing signs of distress?

That’s the only metric I care about. People need different things. There are families who are doing great with every possible set of choices. There is not One Twue Way. But if your kid is freaking the fuck out… you are doing it wrong.

Not because you should be doing it like me… my way might be totally wrong for your kid.

You need to look at the child you have when you make decisions. I came into parenting with some assumptions and some of them have proven correct (I have kids who have extreme needs with regard to attachment) and others have been proven incorrect (I thought they would be able to handle sleeping in a separate room by now… they can’t handle it).

Do what is right for your household. Not what is perceived as “right”.