Today we have our one month pediatrician visit. My baby will be probably have some vaccine shots. Why? Because I believe in science? No. Because there is a preponderance of evidence that this will keep my kid alive and I went through a fuck ton of effort to make her so she’d better fucking stay alive.
I’m just saying.
My kid horrified me the other day. We were discussing how we really don’t want the baby to die so we should take some steps. (It didn’t start out as a weird seeming conversation…) Then my kid said, “Yeah we really don’t want to go through nine months of pregnancy again so this kid had better live.”
My eyes were as wide as dinner plates. Whoa. Ok then.
They aren’t wrong. But that’s not really all I mean. I’m already invested in this girl. I like her. It’s not just the investment cost…
Parenting is weird.
Hah. This is possibly relevant to both this post and your previous post (and some stuff on my end I’m not going to go into in public):
To the best of my understanding, kids in the below ten years age range *literally do not have certain types of empathy developed*. Which translates to effectively being tiny psychopaths but in a way that’s developmentally appropriate and expected.
This leads to, while they/you/me may have known the rules of what’s supposed to be good and what’s supposed to be bad in an intellectual way, it’s all because of learned rules not because that person who is not them really *feels* like a real person on an instinctual level, and… Then you get comments like that the reason the baby should live is that it would be annoying and inconvenient if they didn’t, or actions like whatever exactly happened where your kid thinks they might be a monster.
I don’t know if it would be helpful to them to know that everyone’s brain goes through a stage where that’s just a thing. I try to remember it for myself, and not judge me at age nine with the standards of me now, for instance. I was.. Not great at age nine. But if I were talking to an actual nine year old, from the age I am now, I’d expect a certain lack of judgment and empathy without that being a terrible thing about that kid forever.