Years ago I was part of a community. I don’t want to get into specifics about what kind of community because the point of this essay isn’t to shame anyone. It was an alternative lifestyle-sexuality-drug using community although it was not centered around bdsm. I’ll give that much context. There was some bdsm that happened, because we freaks are everywhere, but we had to be kinda on the down low to not squick the vanillas. That was an acceptable set of rules for the community.