A neat blog post

I found this chick through mothering.com. As much as MDC is kind of wearing through my patience I have learned some neat stuff there. So here is a really interesting post about how toddlers are/can be triggering to abuse victimes. It gave me a lot to think about: Raising My Boychick

4 thoughts on “A neat blog post

  1. safya

    Wow, that’s a great expression of a concept I’d been thinking around the edges of a little recently. In particular, nursing has been feeling borderline nonconsensual to me and I’m amazed at how angry I sometimes feel even though in general I think I’m a really laid-back parent. Hmmm, thanks for posting.

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    1. Krissy Gibbs Post author

      I was super super mellow throughout Shanna’s babyhood and I’m having an increasingly hard time. When she was a baby my body-space issues never manifested. Now that she feels like a different person I am starting to have problems with my skin crawling because she wants to be on top of me all the flippin time. And she is starting to sleep for 7-8 hours at night without nursing basically every night but she is wanting to nurse a lot more during the day and I’m starting to feel upset about it. She used to nurse all night long (not great) but not nurse much during the day. AHHHH!!!

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  2. blacksheep_lj

    This concept is why I get frustrated with the MDC types who insist child led nursing/weaning means never saying no. I think mothers deserve to keep their personal boundaries intact, and it’s a healthier model for the kid to know that mama’s body deserves respect. I’m nursing my 27month old, but I have boundaries. No more night nursing. No sticking your hands down my shirt and grabbing. Ask politely. (“more boobs please!”) If you use your teeth, I will ask you to stop, and if I’m uncomfortable I get to say no. Basic rules that apply in life.

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    1. Krissy Gibbs Post author

      Yeah, I’m growing more and more disenchanted with MDC. The Stalin-esque behavior gets old.

      I totally agree with you about nursing manners. I believe that if his relationship isn’t working for me then I need to change it. (Specifically in reference to nursing.) I’m pretty dedicated to child-lead weaning but I get to control access to my body thankyouvermuch fuckyouverymuch.

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