Pulled from tshuma. (I’m not on my computer, so no links or tags cause I’m not slick enough to remember them manually.)
“Leave a comment with your name if you want to know what I really think of you, and I’ll reply and tell you. No lies, all honesty.
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Note: Some of you I barely know, and I’ll say this. Some of you also know of any… reservations I have about some of the things you do, and I’m not going to rub it in your face in public.
Having said that, don’t ask if you’re not prepared for Brutal Honesty. I have some very good friends on LJ – and I have some people I just consider acquaintances. People in the latter category aren’t necessarily those I feel warm and fuzzy towards all the time. ”
I may leave these screened. I may not. Let me know if you would prefer me to do so.
I’m in.
I have mixed feelings about you. In some ways, I think you are a bit of a show-off. I don’t know where some of your bravado comes from. In other ways, you seem to be more in touch with what you want/need than many people and it is really really cool.
I think you are really really hot. I dislike that you smoke, but accept it as one of those East Coast Things. 🙂 I like how you think about things (or at least how you process some things that you choose to share with the world on lj.) I like that you love several women that I respect.
I think you are an awesome sadist and I would love to play with you again.
Curious
Same to you as to tshuma. . .
You don’t know me well, but I’d like your first impressions.
Re: Curious
You are a good mother. You smile a lot. You seem to treat people well, and that is a Big Deal in my little world. You are kind. You are someone that, if I lived nearer to you, I would spend energy trying to get to know you. Unfortunately, I am pretty limited by geography right now.
Time and distance
I like you too. I suspect we will end up getting to know eachother eventually, which I am looking forward to.
Hmm. With some folks, I’d run screaming b/c I’m not feeling strong enough for what they might say.
With you, I feel safer inviting the unknown.
Lay it on me, please.
I like you. You are smart and funny. You generally back up what you claim. Most of my interactions with you have been through frenzi and off-shoots of conversations through there. I respect what you did with your (niece?). I respect that you have managed to keep your relationship together. I think you have very good advice to give about how to be poly/kinky long-term and I would really like to hear more of it.
And, based on the few times I have seen you, I think you are way cute. 🙂
OK, I’m up for it.
You are odd. Sometimes I don’t know what to make of you. I think once in a while you walk the thin line of almost crossing my boundaries, but you have never quite done it. The fact that you are willing to push right to the edge of that without really knowing me both turns me on and makes me think I should avoid you.
I respect that you are willing to do your best with monogamy for the sake of your marriage. I think it speaks well of you. I think you are funnier than hell. I think you are crazier than a loon for most of your politics. I think you write lots and lots and lots at a time and I can only sometimes get through it all in one sitting. 🙂 I think you are a Very Mean Man in that very good way. I think you would be one of the few people I know who would be willing to try and push me farther than I am willing to go pain-wise.
If you knew how much I’d like to hurt you, you’d certainly avoid me.
Or not.
PS
I’m a Democrat, and you’re a Libertarian, and you think I’m a loon for most of my politics?
Hello?
My party actually wins elections sometimes.
Okay, count me in.
Whether or not your comments require screening I leave to your discretion.
I really really really like you. You have intensely positive vibes. From the first few times I met you I thought your energy just screamed “I’m a nice person.” I think you are incredibly insecure about things. I think that sometimes you probably make your partner feel stifled and I confess that I don’t understand the dynamic very well. I think that I cross your boundaries at times, but you don’t tell me to back off and I have never known how to deal with it.
I think you are far more hurt by the things in your past than I would expect. Some of your coping mechanisms seem very fragile to me.
You are smart and funny and you give of yourself pretty freely. Sometimes I worry about you though.
OK, I am an acquaintance. Tell me what you think. I am curious about what you will say. Thanks.
Well, I think you are damn hot. I think you know a lot of stuff that I want to know. I think you have figured out a lot of the pitfalls of being poly and kinky that I want to figure out. I am envious. I think it is fan-freakin-tastic that you posted a bitch on your journal about people calling you “Lo” because that is the kind of irritation that lots of people don’t fight back about.
I think you do a good job teaching. You are consistently good at helping people even when you aren’t in the absolute greatest of moods and that is a big thing. I think you are more shy than people understand given how “public” you are.
I really like your giggle.
So, maybe hang with me a bit. I’ll be in the bay area Sept 15-21. What’s your schedule like? Mine’s a bit nutty but I have some time and I can take you some places.
Lemme have it.
Well, I think you love Raven. So you are obviously smart. You are willing to consider Noah, so you have reasonably good taste. 🙂
Seriously though–I think you are working towards what you want. I think you are not always being entirely fair with your partner about him seeing other people, but you are being honest about what you want/need and that is a huge big deal. (Not fair only in that you have several outside relationships and you seem to have a hard time letting him do the same thing.) I respect that you are willing to let him have a second chance after what he did. I don’t think I would be so forgiving.
I think you are very silly in very cute ways. I think you are good at respecting peoples boundaries. I think you are doing a good job of asking for what you need, a skill I am woefully lacking.
Fair enough. I understand why you feel that I am being unfair with my partner, and trust me, this is an issue I have struggled with – both with understanding why and with trying to resolve it. (And the recent stuff hasn’t made it easier). I have thoughts, but no hard answers, and it is *frustrating* in the extreme… My Virgo self needs fairness.
As for the rest of it… *blush* You are *very* sweet, and I appreciate it.
And you would be right, BTW – I love Raven immensely. I would say “madly” but that just seems like a horrible thing to associate with a sane relationship to my mind 🙂
I could use some Brutal Honesty. Always, I suspect. Hit me.
How many times do I have to freakin tell you I don’t want to top?! Bloody hell. 😉
Have I ever not been honest with you? I don’t think so. What do I think of you? Do you not know? Do I not tell you so alllll the time? 🙂 Ok, you want more details. I’ll try.
You are a pain in the ass. You are wonderful. You are toppy in a way that curls my toes. You think you know more than you do about people. I’ve seen your estimations be wrong, but I let you have your illusions. 🙂 Things aren’t always as simple as you want them to be. I think some of your arrogant bastard routine is bravado. I think you are actually scared of rejection and that is part of the reason you move so quickly from New Shiny to New Shiny. I think you want something from me that I’m not sure I can give. We have talked about relationship structures that sound really good in theory, but I’m not sure if they will actually stand up to real life tests.
I think you are horrible with money. Appalingly bad. So bad that I cringe when I think of your finances. You let people walk on you in ways that makes my flesh crawl. You are so tolerant that sometimes I want to smack you and see if you would take it.
I love you. I’m somewhat surprised by it. I honestly didn’t think I would. You surprise me in general. I thought you would be a New Shiny for me and that I would get sick of your crap. I haven’t though. I suppose there is still time. 🙂
I think that the DHP’s are a silly extravagance that you can’t afford right now. I wouldn’t have said anything, but you asked. 😛
I’ll bite. Well, probably not literaly, at least not with any force. Sorry, I know, I’m a horrible tease.
You know I love you. I don’t think there needs to be any Brutal Honesty in that. I have loved you so long I barely remember what it is like to not love you!
I’m sad that you are sad about the breakup, but I think it is for the best. I think you need to find some motivation for yourself. I think you really need a better job for your self-esteem, not just for the money. Though the money would be nice. I think you need to discover that there are other fish in the sea.
I think you are a wonderful person. I truly adore you.
I have a ‘satiable curtiosity, though I s’pose we don’t know each other really well. *shrug*
I think you are cute and cuddly and sweet. You are also incredibly androgynous and that is sometimes a funky energy for me to handle. Well, from “boys” it is hard for me to handle. Females that read males aren’t difficult for me in the same way. But anyway.
I think you are lonely sometimes. I think it is really great that you have started the relationship you have started because both of you seem to be happier. I really like it when nice people become happier.
You strike me as smart, which is way positive in my book. AND, you take good care of your hair. Huge big brownie points for that one. It drives me nuts when boys with long hair don’t take care of it. 🙂 You rock.
I’m interested, but not interested enough to want a response in public… silly, I suppose, but hey…
I will respect your desire for privacy.
I like you. I think you are really odd sometimes though. It is pretty clear to me that you have a big crush on me, and I don’t really know how to handle it. I think you are seriously in need of someone to treat you as well as you deserve and I know I am not the person.
I really don’t have anything negative to say. You are sweet and considerate. I like you.
All the world’s a stage, and I love the spotlight!;)
Sure, count me in.
Of course you like the spotlight. You seem like a rather big attention slut to me, which is ok.
I don’t even vaguely understand you. Literally most of the time. Enunciate!!!!! Dude. Seriously. Slow down. 🙂
I think you are really cute and very young and very inexperienced. Luckily, the latter two are curable. I think you are way fun to flirt with because neither of us have any sort of serious interest.
I think your poetry is really beautiful. I think your hair is gorgeous. I really like touching your body. *swoon* I think I could very easily have sisterly types of bossy interactions with you. I need to watch that.
I think it would be hella funny to plop you into a kink situation and watch your eyes get big. heh.
Hehe, if you’d like to be an older sister to me, you’re welcome to, but beware that I’m and oldest child. }:)
As for the kink thing- If you really want to, I guess you can, but I’d rather you didn’t. I’ve popped my head in and looked around, so to speak, and it’s really not my type of thing.
I’m the baby of the family. Doesn’t matter. I’m still the bossiest one in the bunch. All of my older siblings get out of my way when I get bossy. It is just the Way Things Are. 🙂
I’m unlikely to do anything serious around you. It is an issue of consent. I might do flirty stuff, the kind of stuff I will do in front of any open-minded adult, but nothing serious. You know, like the stuff you watched up at Sutter’s Creek. You seemed ok with that level. 🙂
Hell, I even took you off of the Really Dirty list because it didn’t seem like you wanted to see it.
Eh, up to you. After five years of monkeying about on all sorts of random newgroups, chat rooms, boards, journals, etc, I’ve gotten very adept at scanning over massive amounts of info and picking through the stuff I like/don’t like. Thus, I have no objections to being on your Really Dirty list, but only object to not being on it on general principle, namely that I don’t like other people censoring stuff I see (even if it’s their own)(Yes, I know this is probably paranoid, that’s just the way I work).
BTW- please don’t treat me like an egg. Just because I’m not into kink doesn’t mean that I’ll scream and run and cover my ears everytime someone says the word “handcuffs”.:) It also doesn’t mean that I’m entirely unaquainted.
I hope I’m still on the Really Dirty List…
oo-er, missus!
I’m game.
This one is staying private.
You intrigue me like crazy. I always liked you and thought you didn’t really like me. Now to find out that I was just being paranoid.
I still have trouble wrapping my mind around you as a top.
I think I want you.
You are smart. You are good looking. You are geeky in a way that makes me totally get my rocks off.
I think I will hide from you.
I’m curious, hit me with an evaluation.
I worry about you sometimes. It seems to me that you are compromising on some things that don’t seem like good things to compromise on. Hrm.
I like you lots. You are massively spiffy. You are smart and cute. You are willing to give dancing a try even though it is bloody hard to come in and be expected to lead. You let me lead! 😀
I like that you are close to your parents. It is a wonderful thing that very few people have.
I really think it is great that you like your job so much. I like that you are following your mental passions. It is something that few have the courage/wherewithal to do.
I’m feeling brave; I’m happy to return the favor in person sometime if you’d like.
– Mark
I am having so much trouble figuring you out. I have uhm… heard… some things about you that make my radar go *bing!* But yet… it doesn’t jive with my actual experiences with you…. A significant connundrum.
You are smart. Smart is hot. You are remarkably graceful for your body build and overall “social set.” (Tall geeky sorts of boys do not generally know how to handle their bodies. Go you!) I like that you are willing to push some limits.
Dude. Most of what I know of you are things that I have been told. All of it is really great.
When I tease you about foot-in-the-mouth stuff… don’t worry about it. I’ve never been upset with you. 🙂 It is really cute to see you get flustered though.
I always am immensely curious about the truth even if I regret it immensely later. (:
(However, I should be fairly safe as you probably don’t know me well enough to properly disembowel me.)
Yup, I don’t know much about you.
You are nice. You are smart. You should get a better job. You don’t seem very happy to me. You really should get out more.
I think you are considerate and sweet. Unfortunately, I know that these words are often the kiss of death. I apologize.
There are worse things one could be considered than ‘considerate’ and ‘sweet’. (:
I wasn’t going to, but I’m so intrigued by how you’ve been answering these, that I’ll step up for my reading…..
And I will not screen it either. 😛
I think you are really odd. In some ways I’m a wee bit worried about you. I don’t know GB, so I don’t actually know his tolerances for things and I worry about you wanting things that he just doesn’t want. I’ve seen relationships end over stuff like that and I am really worried about you.
I think you are hella buff and smart and sassy. Sassy is the most important part. You have a mouth on you that just doesn’t quit… not that I want it to…. I like you. I genuinely like you. I could easily get more interested in you than it is safe for me to get interested in you and there are very few girls for whom I have that level of interest.
I don’t just want to fuck you. I want to know you from the inside out. Yeah, this worries me.
You might want to screen this part…..
I think you’re absolutely right, I am odd, and I am pushing my boundaries. My relationship with GB is of the utmost importance to me, and I don’t want to put myself in the position of causing damage to the trust and friendship that is at its center. GB knows that I am bi, but that doesn’t have any bearing on the definition of monogamous.
I’ve been thinking a lot about where that leaves things with us (you and me). You’ve given me the opportunity to experience some delightful new things. I think you’re really wonderful, and very intelligent, and I’m obviously attracted to you, and I want to continue to have you in my life. However, I also think that in the future we shouldn’t be giving each other cookies that aren’t chocolate chip. 😉 Deal?
*big hugs*
I think you are sad. I think you put up with a lot of shit you shouldn’t. I think you secretly thrive on the drama because it gives you something to be upset about. You have been upset for so many years that I don’t think you would know what to do with a partner who wasn’t a drama-fest.
I think you are fucking brilliant. I think you care about people so much that you are overwhelmed by it and you subsume a lot of yourself into them. I think you are wonderful and kind. I think you should talk to me more. I think you deserve so much more than what you get.
Do I want to know? At the moment, sure, lay it on me.
I think you are a nice guy. I think you are the kind of nice guy that is the kiss of death nice. It’s not the greatest situation, but it seems to be true.
Wow. I thought this was fun to read, so I’ll bite too. *ankle nibble*
I think you are sweet and cute and kind of clutzy. At times, I seriously mind my feet when you are dancing because I worry about my perception of your equillibrium. You have never actually stepped on me, but it always seems like you are just about to…
🙂
I don’t know you well. I think you smile a lot. I think you are patient with my occasional unkind comments. I like you.
Mmmmm. Intriguing.
Get about the most up-front and forthright person I know, to Tell It Like It Is?
Aww yeah.
Come on… I can’t be the most up-front and forthright person….
🙂 I think you are smiley! You are optimistic! You are happy! And I don’t say any of these things with the expectation that you have to continue being happy/smiley/optimistic at all times. You are more than allowed to have the full range of emotions, I just haven’t seen them yet. You seem to greet new and old friends alike with great enthusiasm and it is nice. You just like people. I am more cautious so I think it is sweet.
I see you charging into life and just living without worrying too much. I envy that.
I’m interested.
I think you are very sweet. I think I irritate you sometimes. I think you are reserved and unsure of what you want from many situations.
I think it is wonderful that you are seeing someone. It’s About Damn Time. You are a massively spiffy girl and I really want you to be happy.
Once in a while I can childishly wish that your opinions on people were less tolerant and more in line with mine… but fine you want to be nice to everyone. Sheesh… 😉
Your journal or mine?
Preferably in mine rather than yours, because I’m a mostly private sort of girl, but: “Oooh! Pick me!!”
Oh sure, wield the cluestick for a change 😀
Dude. There is no clue stick here. That implies way too much intent.
Uhm. I just realized that I shouldn’t answer this now. This drink is stronger than I thought. Tomorrow.
It is morning now! And I’m awake.
I don’t really know you. I understand very little about you. I don’t understand your motivations whatsoever. You baffle me. I have no idea why you say the things you say or do the things you do.
How is that for an evaluation?
Sometimes I think your criticisms are overly harsh and downright mean.
I’m actually flattered. Usually people tell me I’m pretty simple in my motivations. 😉
I’ll buy the part about being overly harsh; I’m honestly not intending to be mean when I swing the cluestick. Which is not to say I can’t be mean, but they rarely intersect…
OK, I’ll bite
What do you think of me?
Re: OK, I’ll bite
What I think of you is a long complicated thing my darling. You have been my best friend for years and I have missed you recently.
My opinion of you has changed substantially over the years. I simultaneously admire you and look down my nose at you. It is odd to me. I think you are very smart and capable. I think you are very immature and occasionally inappropriate and/or obnoxious. I think you are pretty intense about your opinions, which I respect. I think you have a kind heart even if you are sometimes thoughtless. I think I am glad I know you. I sometimes want to smack you in the face just to shut you up. I think you are too focused on sex. (Yeah, coming from me that is some kind of comment.) I really wish you didn’t want me. I think our friendship would be more comfortable if you didn’t.
I’m really happy you are making progress in your life. I miss you.
ok
well, the boy did it so I suppose I shall as well. tell me tell me tell me!
Re: ok
I think you are cute and interesting. I don’t know that much about you though. You put yourself out into the world in a way that I respect. I think you are melodramatic about some things. Sometimes I think you are over-reacting to things, but I keep my comments to myself.
I think it is great that you have a relationship growing. You deserve some happiness.
OK. What do you think of me?
You are very interesting. You are sweet and funny and cute. And you know it, which is kind of funny.
You are quiet. You are a tease. You seem to want to flirt with me. I don’t know much about you. I like what I know so far though.
I’d love to hear from you on this…
hm. This one could be complicated.
I like you. I like your energy. I like that I feel comfortable around you. You are physically big enough that I feel like I could crawl into your lap and be comforted. I feel like your energy is such that I could be interested in you. I feel like you wouldn’t be interested in me though. I could easily get myself into a situation where I am beating my head against a wall. I try to be careful about what I need and how/when I will get it.
I think you are swishy and fabulous, and usually that doesn’t appeal to me. Somehow you manage to make it work. I want to be friends with you. I want to bask in your aura. I would really like to enact one of my favorite scenes with you, but I’m not willing to say here what it is.
I’ll take a chance. I’m braced for the worst, I think.
This is still sitting in my inbox waiting for me to have mental bandwidth. I will get to it. 🙂
I think you are nice. I think you are big. I think you want to be my friend. I think you do amazing bondage. I think you are managing a poly situation I would not be able to do. I think you have excellent taste in women.
I think you get too long-winded sometimes. 🙂
I think I am the biggest flake in the whole wide world.
But I did it finally. I think I am regaining my brain.
Hi there. I don’t think you ever lost your brain, though I concede you may have forgotten which pocket you put it in for a while.
Thanks for the kind words. Yes, I do want to be your friend – if you want me to be. That’s the bit that I’m not always certain of. It’s funny that the first adjectives you thought of for me are “nice” and “big.” It’s funny because I didn’t truly realize that I was big until I was in my 30s. It was a great revelation when I figured it out, and explained a lot about how people reacted to me sometimes.
Your thoughts on my ropework are very kind. Coming from you, that’s saying something.
As for my excellent taste in women, I think I’ve been very lucky. But I agree that the women I find interesting tend to be pretty special. Think about that the next time you run yourself down.