1. When you talk about him like that in public it makes you look bad. It doesn’t matter what he did. He’s not humiliating you in public. There was no violence or abuse. Why are you acting like that?
2. I don’t know how to apologize sufficiently for what I did to you. I hurt you. I’m not sure how to get passed it.
3. If you continue to let him be mean to you like that I may have to kick you both.
4. Every day I am glad for you. I’m pretty sure you don’t know that. Telling you might be a problem.
5. I’m glad you decided to like me. My life would be very sad without you.
6. I’m really glad you picked me over her. It’s not nice or mature in any way, but I’m glad that someone finally took my side.
7. If he hits you, I am calling the police. You don’t get to make the decision that it’s ok for your children to watch that. Please get help before this escalates.
8. I’m not sure I want you any more. But I’ve wanted you for a long time. I’m kind of afraid I’ll be disappointed.
9. You cannot know how much I struggle with wanting to hit you. Doing so would be weakness on my part. You deserve better than that.
10. I don’t believe what you said about me.
Things I will say: the next person who makes fun of me asking why I’m not done with the house stuff yet I may not speak to ever again. I am so tired and so frustrated right now.
OOOh, oooh, ooh!
I hope I’m Number 5!
I’m not sure if you had me in mind on #9, but I imagine it applies to me 🙂
hmmm.
Why not #7?
And #10 in an offended tone seems like it would actually come up a lot. Oh, no wait, not “I *can’t* believe” but “I *don’t* believe”. that’s different.
#5 also doesn’t seem too horrible to me, but I can see where an abusive relationship would make that one scary-evil.
Sorry, I’m a moron. I was thinking those were things you’d never say to anyone. Looking at the other responses it seems they’re actually things you are thinking but won’t say.
So….why not #7? or #5? (Cause #5 is no longer evil if you were actually thinking it as opposed to considering hypothetical situations where you put yourself into another person’s power by hinging your self-esteem on their opinion.)
Is a consistent meme for me. Normally I just refuse to answer speculation about them because the rules were established long ago. I no longer go back and find the rules I just do this bit. There are a variety of reasons I would say any of them. And that’s all I’ll say about that. 😉
Gotcha.
Feel free to delete this whole conversation then. =D
On the house front- no can do. Fucked my my hip or back or something and am having trouble getting up out of chairs and or carrying a jacket. Can’t help. Sorry:(
Oh no! Feel better soon. I’m really ok with people not being able to come help me with my physically demanding hobby. 🙂 If you can’t be ok with that you can’t have this hobby. 😉
#9 reminds me of that day in Santa Cruz, which I still feel shitty about. I am really grateful that you opened my eyes to some semi-conscious stuff I was doing that was Not Okay.
For what it is worth, I don’t think you need to feel shitty. You have grown up a lot over the years. We all have. *hug*
I do want to apologize for me and Marcie not being there to help with the house this week. 🙁 We’re both drowning very badly in school/work right now.
You’re not done with the house stuff because house stuff is never done. Never. It’s a slighly rewarding level of purgatory.
i still have
“The List of 20 Things”
we needed to do when
we first moved into this house.
it’s not even half-way complete.
then again,
it’s been only 19 years…