On Wednesday I went over to the house of the couple that I am considering service for. I am a truly odd duck. I ended up spending about four hours cleaning their house in my underwear (he would have preferred naked but he allowed me to be shy because it was the first time). [For ease, he is G she is D.] D was at work, so I never did see her. Their two daughters were off at day care. I had not really understood that it was to be a day of service. So I was wearing inappropriate underwear. I get the impression that this error will be tolerated once and in the future will result in punishment. He has a dress code. Although it is always acceptable to simply go without underwear, which I dislike. So I guess I better start wearing thongs when I go over there. It is funny to me that I own a number of thongs, but I never wear them. Ok, I wear them to events where I will be running around in underwear because they are somehow sexier. Only, I find them uncomfortable and I think that is less than sexy.
I found myself at times feeling impatient some moments with how much time he wanted to spend! If I had tasks to accomplish he should just let me do them! Silly man. He wants to distract me with spanking me. It didn’t suck, but I was still feeling anxious about finishing. He later told me that he believed from the beginning that I would not be able to finish. I think I would have been able to if I had been dedicated in my efforts. But it is ok. As long as I am performing up to his standards then the relationship is doing well. Wow. What a thing to say. Where are my standards in the equation? I’m not sure yet.
He follows a formality of protocol that I am unused to. As Chris tells me, D/s can be created from the outset and G manages that. I felt somewhat disconcerted by the lack of romance type feeling. I was truly doing this just to serve. Service for the sake of service. I was not serving him out of love. At some point in the day it occurred to me that I was serving D more than I was serving G because all of these things would eventually have had to happen and D would have been the one to do them. I really liked thinking about making her life easier.
These early interactions are going well. I liked that he required me to dress him. And I got to shine his shoes. Yay for shining shoes. He has high hopes for the relationship. He thinks it will turn into a long-term triad. I think once again, that a relationship can’t have a future until it has had a past. Building sand castles in the air worries me. Who freakin knows what it will turn into. I don’t want to speculate. But it was a lot of fun. I really love doing service.
That rocks. Brave girl.
Did he really want *service* or just to punish you for not-finishing? Sounds like he wasn’t certain… hmm.
Oh he is certain about what he wants. And he didn’t punish me for not finishing. He was quite pleased with what I got done. He read this entry and told me that my interpretation of service is different than his. This will lead to more negotiation I’m certain. 🙂
On thongs – theyr’e more comfy after you get used to them. Buy a variety of them and try wearing just thongs for a week and see which ones are most comfy. After the first week, dump the ones that are still uncomfortable.
I think that *HIS* goal was to have you do tasks when you weren’t being spanked – that the tasks were secondary to having you available to spank. There are a lot of guys who have the fantasy of “slave/servant around who can be interrupted for a quick spank/fuck/whateverIwant”. I think you were serving that fantasy, more than you were serving by accomplishing real-world tasks.
Be sure that you spend a little time discussing with them in-clear about their view of your position – are you there as a fucktoy/spanktoy who happens to be useful, or are you there as a maid who is also happens to be spankable… Very different focus on those two. And be aware that G and D may have different visions of this as well.
I’m glad you had fun. But, it also sounds like your vision of service clashed a little with his…
We both noted that our vision of service are different. His is more about being available and getting things done. My experience has centered around getting things done. It is ok, it will just take a while.
I have tried wearing thongs for years. I have never gotten used to them.
Ah. I hated them for years until I was forced to wear them and nothing but them for a while. Styles differ in comfort for me.
But I do understand – I feel the same way about those thong-style sandals with the icky thing that goes between your big toe and your second toe. ICKY!!!!
Heh – I read your comment about the “different views” after I had posted mine. Good luck on handling it.
Some thongs are definitely better than others. This is one case in which spending the money is a good thing, I think. I have a pair of stretchy lace Calvin Klein’s that I bought on sale at the same time I bought several pairs of cheaper Penny’s brand ones in other colors. I will wear the CK’s, but almost never wear the Penny’s ones because they’re so damn uncomfortable. I’d recommend several things:
1) Go to Victoria’s Secret–they let you try the underwear on over your stockings or underwear. This doesn’t completely solve the problem, but at least you have a CLUE whether they will fit. Other places will try to tell you it’s illegal for you to try them on at all, which is actually bullshit, but if it’s their store policy anyway, you can’t fight it.
2) Spend enough money on them. Cheap ones suck.
3) Buy them a tad large. Then they don’t crawl quite so aggressively up your butt crack.
4) As another respondent basically suggested, once you have some that work, buy lots.
Yay for service! :^)
Sometimes uncomfortable is interesting, but I rarely think of it as sexy. So I think I agree with you there.
“no future without a past” is a very interesting perspective. I like it. It also has interesting tie-in’s with NLP timelines.
OTOH, flying “sand castles” _is_, imo, a form of romance/fantasy. I do it sometimes, though usually more in the form of posssibilities: “this could happen” than a future “this will happen”.
When I was in college, I built several different models from scratch out of cardboard & cotton balls of castles in clouds. I hung them from my bedroom ceilings.
Glad you’re finding things you like that excite you. :-).