With the hard drive crash I have lost The List.
I bet I could recreate it without a problem (Yes, I *do* remember everyone I have had sex with but it would take some thought) but I don’t know if I want to.
Is this maybe God’s way of telling me that the number shouldn’t matter?
(Opinions welcomed.)
That surely is a Mysterious Omen. I think I might pay attention to it.
Personal PoV: I don’t think the number, as a number, matters. However, I want to remember all the names. I do have the leisure of not having anybody that I want to forget, though.
In all honesty there are some names I don’t know. The CL hookup. Jason’t friend at that party…
There have been a couple of names that I simply never learned because neither of us wanted to give a name… (Those were some damn hot scenes.)
Mmmm. Yeah, I can see how that would have hotness potential. (:
Ahhh! Data loss!! I’d recreate it if it was me. That’s not advice – I’m just telling you what my reaction would be.
Somewhere along the way I lost my list. My main reason for keeping it was to have a list of people I needed to contact should an STD issue come up.
*nod* That’s pretty much the only reason I kept a list. The number doesn’t matter to me, or it stopped mattering shortly after I hit double-digits. It might be intriguing to maintain if I ever thought I’d hit triple-digits, but I’ve slowed down a lot and it seems unlikely.
If I continue my normal rate of partner pickup I will probably hit triple digits in 3-5 more years. It’s an interesting thought.
*nod*
You’d know when that happened without rebuilding the old list, though, wouldn’t you? Roughly, at least? (If I had kept up the list, I’d not be able to keep from noticing how many there were.)
I am weird about numbers. I lose track of them very easily and I transpose them in my head. If I stop keeping track I won’t know anymore.
I say let the number and the list go. It’s not about numbers, it’s about the sex!
Yay sex!
I’ve never thought the number was especially important, but that’s separate from whether the names are important.
Some of the truly casual hookups I don’t have names for anyway. However, most of the list (more than 2/3) is still in my life to at least some degree so I am not likely to forget them.
I think yes. I think that’s its strangely coincidental. Its a meaningful coincidence therefore synchronicity.
Yah. I know your a virgo and all but I cant quite see how this particular list was helping.
I keep a list. And I’m 99% sure it’s accurate. But I’m not surprised when I think of someone that isn’t on the list.
For me it’s a point of pride that I can count and that I can name at least first names. I’m slowly losing track over time, such that I don’t remember my actual number this second without looking at my list. And I’m ok with that too.
When I first started asking people about their numbers, the people whose sexuality and attitudes I most admired pretty much all, to a one, told me that they’d stopped counting somewhere along the way. Some said at 30, some at 50, some at 100, etc. But they all stopped counting at some point. If figure that if I want to be like them, then I need to get over the counting thing. And my split approach is to keep my list, but not really in memory.
Yeah. I am starting to think it might be a good thing.
Part of my keeping track has been rooted in some attitude of “I have crossed some invisible line of being disgusting/uncaring/indiscriminate if I can’t name all of my partners.”
But… technically I already can’t name some of them they are just numbers and vague keywords in my head. I remember the experience, but… yeah.
I’m thinking it’s time to let it go.
I, too, believe you should let it go.
Numbers don’t count. Spelling counts.
You are a dork.
suggestion
Start a new list, with the current number in the top line.