This is a list Noah agrees with.
I cheated. Then I said I wasn’t sorry. Both were separate levels of hurtful.
I negotiated gloves for all genital contact and then broke that rule like 24 hours later.
I said maybe one person, maybe once a month. Yeah. That lasted less than a week. So many dates. So many people.
I have not been malicious. But I have been ridiculously selfish.
I’m glad he’s going to write me a list of what he feels he is doing wrong. I need to see that. He isn’t into the public exhibition of shame and that’s ok. I’ll see it.
Sometime in the last year my husband downloaded The Ethical Slut to his Kindle, with Attitude. I thought he was doing some research to give me more shit, but no. He apologised, tearfully, for having been so unethical with me. :-/ he cried and apologised Twice. I thanked him and told him that it was nice to see that he “got” it. That I appreciated the sincerity of his remorse.
Hard to know what to do with that…
Indeed. Your situation is very different from mine.
True. It certainly is now and the similarities past lead me to project if I’m not careful. I’ll try to be more careful.