Four things I use everyday:
toothbrush, shoes (very sad really), some sort of hair tie, glasses

Four jobs I’ve had in my life:
Ross–sales associate, sandwich maker at Togo’s, jill-of-all-trades for theatre, teacher!

Four TV shows I watch…
yeah no

Four people I’ve talked to on the phone recently:
Mommy, Julia, Puppy, uhm… I don’t know. I IM everyone. I called all of my kids’ parents.

Four movies I could watch over and over:
Shawshank Redemption, The Color Purple, Beaches, First Wives Club

Four things I want to do in life:
Finish my fucking masters, have kids, see basically all of Europe, spend more than a month on all of the inhabited continents (time does not have to be sequential).

Four family members I am close to:
Alex, Anna, Ali, and Julia. These people are my family.

Four places I’ve been on vacation:
Hawaii, Ireland, Alaska, Australia.

Four costumes I’ve worn on Halloween:
Pooh, ghost, clown, Snow White. (In totally random order.)

Four schools you have attended: (HA! This one is ridiculous.)
SJSU, CSUH, WVC, FHC (four colleges)

Four of your favorite pizza toppings:
olives, ham, pineapple, cheese

Leave one memory of you and me together. It doesn’t matter if I know you a little or a lot, anything you remember! Next, post this in your blog and see how many people leave a memory about you.

(Icon is a cool memory I have of a friend giving me a place to belong last Thanksgiving. Uhm, I didn’t need to explain that. But I wanted to.)

Go to http://www.musicOutfitters.com

In the Search box, enter the year you graduated high school. The first item returned should be the 100 songs from that year. Cut and paste them into your journal.

Bold those you like.
Strike those you loathe.
Italicise those you don’t know.
Underline your favourite.
Add comments after them if you feel like it.

Going through this is funny. I must have been hiding under a rock. I hardly know any of them.
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Though there is a cut tag.

Someone pointed to: 43 Things yesterday and it made me think. So I spent a little bit of time working on my list. What 43 things do I want to do/see/accomplish/avoid in my life. It’s really neat to think about.

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1. Go here.
2. Pass it on.
my answers

This was not actually asked anonymously, so I am tailoring the answer. However, there are chunks of the answer that apply to many people so I’m putting the answer basically publicly.

I know that you & I didn’t really get along for a few years. To be honest, I’m not sure what the reason was at the beginning….but I know I did contribute to stirring the pot over time.

Anyways….I’ve been curious for months now….what made you decide to treat me as a friend?

First off, people often attribute my behavior to me not liking them. No really, I am much more self-centered than that. I am moody and a pain in the ass and that filters into most of my interactions and it often leads people to thinking that I dislike them when I don’t.

Secondly, I am not consistent in how I get to know people. I tend to make snap judgments but I will sometimes change my mind over time. It is rare that I will dislike someone strongly and get over that; it does happen though. Look at Miss Jenny. I hated her guts for the first year I knew her and eventually we got past that. As I get older I am trying to be more reserved with people early on until I build enough of a knowledge base of someone to draw conclusions. Unfortunately I am still impulsive. Most of the time what I do is I take a look at the veneer of a person and think it is pretty nifty and then I get to know them better and I lose respect. There are a lot of things that I am judgmental about; there are also many things that I am tolerant of that other people aren’t.

I notice that many of my relationships (the best ones anyway) go through a lot of growing pains. I’m a shit and prickly and hard to get along with. If I am dealing with someone else who also has a strong personality *cough* then there are often clashes for quite a while. Eventually I notice, “Hey! This person may not be the easiest person to get along with 100% of the time, but they are consistent (a huge thing for me) and honest (another huge thing) and forthright (alright, we have a winner) so I guess I better get the stick out of my ass about being irritable and recognize that they have some of the biggest positives that I respect.”

I will also be perfectly honest and say that there are many people out there that I may like and respect and think fairly highly of, but I will never be close friends with. I am getting better at recognizing that I may think someone is really an amazing person, but they have some personaility quirk that means I really shouldn’t spend much time with them or I will get really sick of them really fast. Frankly, complaining about the same problem(s) for years is one of them. You may be great in every other way, but if I am judgmental about something you do often then it is best that I keep you at arms length. That wasy we preserve the level of friendly behavior that is optimal.

In this specific case though what happened is that she is a woman of strong personality and probably there was something early on that set me off. I am pretty bad about holding grudges if I get a negative impression. Over the course of the nearly five years I have known her I have seen that she does conduct herself in a consistent and respectable way. I have noticed that despite my first impression in some areas, she holds many of the same values that I do in specific ways that matter to me. So I did my best at pulling the stick out of my ass. I guess she noticed. 🙂

So this isn’t a meme running around, just me having a really hard day/week etc.

Tell me something you like about me. Can be small or big. I hate feeling so completely unlikeable.

Would you spread rumors about people that you didn’t like?

Hmmm. Interesting question. First off, let’s define rumor. I think of rumors as unsubstantiated information. If I ever repeat unsubstantiated information I do it with great caution and I do it proclaiming loudly and frequently that it is information that I have not verified. In general I try to only repeat things that I have asked the person in question about.

That said, do I repeat information that I have checked out? Depends on the information. I am not a malicious person and I don’t want to hurt anyone. There are times when I feel that it is someone’s best interests to know a piece of information, and then I repeat it. I don’t break confidentiality though. If someone ever asks me not to repeat something then I simply won’t. If I feel a situation is important enough then I will say to a third party that there is information that I cannot repeat but I am worried about them for a reason.

Do I gossip generally though? Oh hell yes. I am a major people person and I love hearing more about people in general and I will listen to as many stories as I can. When I am sharing information I try to repeat something with the tone with which it was shared with me or to make it more neutral or more positive. I have been slammed a lot in my lifetime and I try to avoid doing it.

I think that quite often people do things that they don’t want repeated and then get angry when it is repeated. I also know that I am willing to cop to the fact that I talk about people and so I am a convenient target for people to be angry at when information is circulated. I am far from the worst gossip I know. And I do not repeat truly negative information unless I either was the recipient of it myself or I have verified it with the person who did it. Once I know that I understand as close to the truth as I can understand then… yeah. Character and esteem are how people are judged in this world and particularly in the communities I run in. I give honest evaluations. That means they aren’t always positive.

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1. Go to my userinfo page.

2. Pick one person on my friends list you’re curious about.

3. Comment with their username.

4. And I will tell all about them (I reserve the right to determine what constitutes “tell all about them”).

5. Now post this in your journal, see who is curious about whom.

“I know very little about some of the people on my friends list. Some people I know relatively well. I read your fic, or we have something else in common and we chat occasionally. Some of you I hardly know at all. Perhaps you lurk, for whatever reason. But you friended me and I thank you.

But here’s a thought: why not take this opportunity to tell me a little something about yourself. Any old thing at all. Just so the next time I see your name I can say: “Ah, there’s so and so…she likes office pr0n supplies.”

I’d love it if every single person who friended me would do this. Yes, even you people who I know really well. Then post this in your own journal.”

With thanks to Miss barelyproper who should join: hairbraiding 🙂

Stolen from the cutest boymeat ever

If you read this, even if i don’t speak to you often, please post a memory of me. It can be anything you want, it can be good or bad, just so long as it happened.
Then post this to your journal. See what people remember about you.

If you want to post something graphic go ahead, but I might screen it cause I want to leave this one public.