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warping my kid

So far I have been trying pretty hard to ensure that the clothing Shanna has is at least mostly gender neutral. Some of it is pink stuff that I will happily put on a boy, so it is at least somewhat gendered by society’s standards. I feel a lot of conflict around buying her thoroughly girly stuff though. I don’t want to imprint on her that as a girl it is her job to be ruffly and fluffy and cutesy anymore than I will put a boy in some of the uberbutch shit that I have seen. I wonder how this will play out in the long run in terms of warping her.

(This comes up because I see very cute girly stuff and I consciously choose to not buy it because I don’t want to “send that message”. It’s weird.)

Ooft

Yesterday was mostly really great. ribbin and I were not as thoroughly focused on prep for my comp as maybe I should have made us be, but instead we did general lit geeking. That was really awesome so I can’t complain. 🙂 Shanna was thoroughly good for the vast majority of the day until she completely lost it to hysteria an hour and a half before the train. That was… hard. We got through it though. We came home and went to bed a bit late, 8:40ish. She slept straight through till 4 without waking for boobie. w00t! We woke up and ate for half an hour, then pottied and tried to get her back to sleep again. Unfortunately my pesty daughter (Mark, I love that word) refuses to go back to sleep. So now she is being uberexcited to have her toys back. 🙂

7 days till the comp exam.

Stats of the tank.

She turns 5 months old in 16 hours so I’m a tiny bit early. 🙂

She is now 26.5″ tall and 18.5 lbs. She is barely still in 9 month clothes except for jammies, which have already moved up to 12 months.

Other general updates: sitting up for pretty much as long as she wants to. She can correct from 45 degrees of lean backwards to sitting and she can push herself up from bent in half forward. She can roll in both directions but she rarely bothers. She does push ups about as well as I do. 🙂 She loves to chit chat and has long conversations. She has gotten really grabby. My glasses are no longer safe. She loves to play with books and seems to recognize that Mommy is into books as well. She can now eat with greater purpose and get it over with quicker (thank Gawd). She eats a little bit of avocado but isn’t that interested. She goes ~ 10 hours without a diaper change most nights and gets up and goes on the potty. Most nights she wakes up twice and relatches on my boob, but we both pretty much sleep through these feedings. During growth spurts she will nurse every hour on the hour; those nights are hard. She hates having a dirty diaper and hates having her diaper changed. We need to start trying harder on EC cause she just loathes the whole “diaper” thing. She likes to sit and play with a couple of rattles and books for long periods. Oh! And by far her favorite toy is the ducky that masterfiddler gave us. He lives in the car and she loves her ducky. It’s very cute.

Generally speaking she is an extremely happy and cheerful baby. She loves to be around people and she loves to flirt. She likes playing in the water. If you haven’t met her yet, you should. She’s neat. 🙂 And if you see us out and about and you would like to hold her but feel shy about asking… go ahead and ask. My physical boundaries don’t seem to extend to her. She loves being passed around so I do it.

Hard night

Last night was the kind of night that prompts me to tell people, “If you aren’t 150% sure you want children–don’t have them.” Really it was all my fault. I was out of the house from 10 am till 6:30 pm and Shanna was only able to steal a couple of 20 minute cat naps. Whoops. As a result she had a terrible time sleeping all night. Major booby-monsterage. She woke up freaked out and needed to nurse every hour or two. At about 2:30 she woke up and just couldn’t seem to go to sleep again. We were up until 4:30. She was fussing and whining and crying and kicking me and generally expressing massive displeasure in my direction. Fair enough. All told she probably got ~9 hours of sleep last night but it was seriously broken sleep. She’s already napping on my lap.

At about 4am we ended up crying together for a while out of frustration. It was rather cathartic.

And it’s worth pointing out that after last night, by far our hardest night to date, that I’m still so happy to be a mom that I ache with joy. I love her so much.

{milestones} sitting

So if I sit her on a chair (with back support) she can keep sitting for a while. When she falls to the side or forward she can push herself back into the sitting position. Very cool.

Yesterday she had a couple of opportunities to see other babies/kids and she watched them with great fascination. They were sitting and crawling and walking. Today she sits. She was also a little more interested than normal in taking steps when I pulled her to standing. I wonder if she feels inspiration or competition when she sees other kids.

I was amused because many of the babies/kids who were much older than her were basically the same size or smaller. That’s mommy’s little tank. 🙂

Moving on up

After being mocked last night by no fewer than three people I caved in. See, I have this uhm thing. I like for Shanna to actually get too big for her clothes before I move up a size. But then she doesn’t look terribly comfortable and she squirms in ways that look like she is demonstrating how uncomfortable she is. I ended up putting jammies on her that were the next size up because that was all I had with me and Noah got validated in his belief that she should be in that size now.

Fine. *sigh*

She’s 16 lbs and 25″ long. But the cloth diapers seem to be pushing her firmly into 6-9 (or 6-12 depending on brand) already. I WANTED TO HAVE A LITTLE BABY LONGER!!!!!!

Oh the cute! And a milestone.

She is getting pretty close to being able to sit up. See, here’s proof:

From Shanna

And here is right after she was nomming Noah’s head trying to get to his spicy brains. Notice the clever, “What? What did I do?” expression?

From Shanna

And then today I put her down on the bed while I was folding laundry. She played with her toys for a while (ok, she just made them talk back and forth–no really! The voices were awesome.) then she started doing the “I don’t wannnnnna sleep” whine. Then when I looked a minute or so later she was drowsing off. Here is evidence of her first time putting herself to sleep.

From Shanna

This parenting thing is really awesome.

Just ’cause

I’m home! Did anyone miss me? 🙂 I had a good time in the PNW seeing people. I got in a good many quality visits this time which I often don’t manage to do. w00t!
Shanna was awesome. Her fuss was limited to times when she was exhausted or really hungry and even in those times her fuss was very minimal. I declare her a good traveler.
It was exciting trying to figure out how to sleep on a queen sized bed since we are used to a king. Then we got put on a double bed for a night. Maybe we shouldn’t have bitched about the queen… 🙂
My packing list was pretty much perfect. My timing on laundry and what-have-you worked out exactly as I planned. The only extraneous thing was about ten baby wipes and I’m ok with that.
My kid weighs 14.5 pounds. whoa. She’s big. (that’s at 3.5 months)I
Shanna loved playing outside in the grass nekkid. She was walking around and seemed to like the grass under her feet.
I missed the swing.
I didn’t do anything in Portland or Seattle other than seeing people and eating food. I didn’t even go to Powell’s. Seeing people was enough taxing of the kidlet’s patience.
I got to see quite a few little ones on the trip and that was very fun. I’m trying not to compare Shanna in any sort of competitive way but instead just be thrilled at seeing how humans vary.
I’m glad we aren’t traveling again for a few months. That was an awful lot of work for all of us, but mainly for me. I had ridiculous anxiety around packing and getting to places on time and making travel connections. My stomach needs a break from that much acid.
Ok, so I can see how those baby buckets are somewhat convenient. I’m still very happy that I don’t own one because I would be somewhat tempted to let her sit in it and then I would have one more thing to feel guilty about. Oy.
I have a ton of laundry and cleaning to do. This morning I have already cleaned mold out of my cat’s water bowl and cleaned her box. She already hates me less.
I semi-skimmed lj a couple of times when I was gone but not consistently. I may or may not actually catch up. I will do the meme Peter tagged me for though because, DUDE! I got tagged! (I hardly ever get tagged and it’s instant love…)

Poetic Justice

Shanna was really cheerful and sweet and tolerant all through the shower this morning. Sometimes she’s not, so this was awesome. She was even tolerant of me lying her on the floor of the bathtub so I could get out without dropping her or falling. That is a major concession in her world. So then I wrap towels around each of us and walk in to the changing table. She starts to fuss right before I lay her down. When I bend over to put her on the table I notice…

Big. Huge. Gobs of cheese dripping down my collar bone to my breast and stomach. She’s covered from chin to navel with cheese.

*sigh* So much for not smelling cheesy today.

And of course since she has purged she must refill the tank and nothing will do but nursing for a while.

I used to be able to leave the house in under thirty minutes. Now when I call someone at 9:30 I tell them I *might* be able to get there at 11:30. I’ll call when I can leave the house. *sigh*

screw heterosexism

We were out today and we did baby clothes shopping. We found two onesies that I simply couldn’t pass up. One had a cute little baby chick and under it written “chick magnet”. The second said, “Get In Line Girls”. I figure that if these are appropriate for a boy that age they are bloody well appropriate for my daughter. 🙂